Whole Parenting Family

the painful feedback of the internet


My belly cast that my sweet doulas & best friend did when I was 38 weeks with BabyLoves. I LOVE it and am so glad they did it. The kids helped me paint it, finally, many months post partum. But I have something heavier I want to share about today.

I came across an online forum that had some negative comments about my blog, and people who I’m friends with that also blog. I will spare you the details, but some of what I read really hurt my feelings. But more importantly, made me think that maybe the people who have followed my journey of familyhood no longer think I’m writing anything of real value because I’m doing giveaways and working with brands.


I don’t know what to say. I really love that I can approach a company and ask for free quality products for my friends. I know that’s not every reader’s cup of tea. Totally get it. And my etsy shop and my sister’s organic skincare products? I do talk about them a lot. They’re both a big part of my life.

And some of the comments talked about my Catholicism and how it’s masked or veiled, or I’m not trying to be up front about my beliefs because I’ll then get more sponsors. Confused about this. My ad bars on the side? They’re friends of mine. People who are mostly in the natural parenting world, helping families and moms. I charge a very small fee (compared to most bloggers) and love promoting their work in helping families. I’m not hoping to hide my faith so I can score . . . ?? A sponsor who is not Catholic? My sponsors aren’t Catholic.

I think it depends on who you ask if they perceive I write about being Catholic often. Some friends & family say um–you write a lot about it. Others say, oh I barely noticed it.

I’m not being politically correct for some hidden agenda. That’s genuinely what I believe. My best friend is a spiritual person, not religious, who leans toward Buddhism. I have family and friends who are gay. And who are Muslim, Jewish, agnostic & atheist. I’m a straight white Catholic. This doesn’t dictate our closeness.

The blog has a smathering of gardening, recipes, crazy stuff my kids do, and really mostly natural crunchy pregnancy, birth, and parenting. Just another mom hoping to share her experiences in a way that can be helpful–especially all the things I’ve done with my small children that hasn’t worked! Maybe I sound smug, like they said. I do not mean to sound like that at all. I’m not smug. I’m drowning in plain sight with three small kids, an ill-kempt house, and hair that keeps going dredlocked but not on purpose.

What I took away were valid criticisms: people don’t like giveaways, people think I’m too religious, and people think I’m annoying and a know-it-all in my tone about parenting. I will really take a look at the latter, can’t do anything about the middle, and am planning a reader survey about the former. If people don’t want giveaways who read my blog, I’ll stop! I would love feedback on this.

Sorry if this is a blah blah blah post but I had to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening, gentle reader.



  1. Molly on October 20, 2014 at 10:59 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear this Nell =( You’re a lovely person with a unique view point; don’t change for a couple people who have nothing better to do than to nit-pick the entire internet.

    As for the giveaways – I’ve just been hoping for one that’s not baby related soon so I can actually enter ;)!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:13 pm

      Thank you so much, Molly!! And I’m totally harassing a bunch of companies right now to give me stuff for the non-baby amongst us!!

  2. Molly on October 20, 2014 at 11:01 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear this Nell =( You’re a lovely person with a unique view point; don’t change for a couple people who have nothing better to do than to nit-pick the entire internet.

    As for the giveaways – I’ve just been hoping for one that’s not baby related soon so I can actually enter ;)!x

    • Molly on October 20, 2014 at 11:02 pm

      p.s. your blog seems to eat my comments when I include my website, could you check your spam folder and make sure I’m not being flagged as a spammer! =)

      • Natural Mama Nell on October 20, 2014 at 11:05 pm

        Oh no! I’m so sorry! Will check right now.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 20, 2014 at 11:06 pm

      Thanks, Molly. XOXOX And great insight on the giveaways! Did you have something fav in mind I should ask for??

  3. Karla Rufus on October 20, 2014 at 11:38 pm

    I’m so sad that you had to read comments like that! Some people don’t think about how hurtful writing an opinion (or saying) can be. Im a new reader and am truly enjoying your blog!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:15 pm

      Dear Karla, thanks for being here! I am so glad you’re enjoying it and hope it continues to give you joy 🙂 And thank you for your kind words and support. I think often we all do this where we dump out all our feelings without thinking of how it will (and does) affect others.

  4. Lara on October 20, 2014 at 11:48 pm

    I happened upon your blog via Camp Patton. I found your writing to be sincere and lovely and have enjoyed your point of view in life, parenting and the such. I met you this summer at Edel and you were so warm and kind. Keep on keeping on lady. This reader is grateful for what you put out there.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:12 pm

      Isn’t Grace so awesome? Thank you for being here, Lara, and I’m really glad we could meet at Edel. Edel15?? Super appreciative of your support 🙂

  5. Jacqui on October 21, 2014 at 1:16 am

    Oh, Nell! That stinks! I’m sorry that people are so uncharitable. I think you do a great job with your balance in posts and give aways. Honestly, I’ve found your blog to be a great resource as a new parent. I’m grateful for your insights.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:11 pm

      Thank you, kind and true friend!! I love your blog, too, and am so grateful my ramblings can be of some help!! XO

  6. Rosie on October 21, 2014 at 3:07 am

    Maybe it’s me being uncharitable, but I don’t understand what’s so hard about simply clicking the “X” button on your browser if you don’t like reading a particular blog! I think people forget, with the anonymity of the internet, that the writers of blogs have feelings too…

    I’ve stopped following a handful of blogs over the years that have LITERALLY sold out and become nothing but guest posts & sponsored posts, which is totally different from adding a few giveaways & infusing them with your own particular style of blogging. And complaining about you not being Catholic enough, or being TOO Catholic? There is no pleasing some. Ugh. I’m really frustrated on your behalf 🙁

    Nobody is forcing anybody to read a particular blog, so why complain if it’s not up to your standards? Just close the tab and move on!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:11 pm

      Rosie, you’re so awesome. Thank you for sharing in my grief (sounds like the stabbat mater??) and your support. HUGS, sister!!!

  7. Dorrit on October 21, 2014 at 4:22 am

    I like you just the way you are (and your blog too). I am following you from Denmark 🙂

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:10 pm

      Welcome, Dorrit! So excited you’re here from across the pond. And thank you for your loving & kind support. I really truly appreciate it!

  8. Annery on October 21, 2014 at 5:42 am

    This is your space. You have invited others in. I’m with Rosie on this, they can ick off the screen if it’s not for them. Kinda like being invited over to your house and then going home and trash talking your house and person. Not cool. Not classy. Not called for.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:09 pm

      Girlfriend, you are such an ego boost and rockstar. THANK YOU for being here!!

  9. Laura @ Mothering Spirit on October 21, 2014 at 6:32 am

    Oh friend, I’m so sorry you had this awful experience. I had something similar when I was in my early blogging days, except when I stumbled upon it, it was someone I KNEW and thought I was close to, who basically mocked/ripped my blog to shreds. Ouch. It took a look time for me to forgive and move past this with love and compassion, because I felt like I’d been personally attacked. But I am coming to realize more and more that when people criticize in cruel ways, it honestly is more about them than the ones they tear down. Something is happening in their lives that they feel desperate and angry and unheard about, and the anonymity of the internet provides them a place to yell/lash out and try to feel bigger and better about themselves because they have been heard. So now I try to simply acknowledge that there will always be people who don’t like what I say or do, but that I cannot waste my precious energy on them. I often think of the fact that Jesus was attacked CONSTANTLY, from almost every side, and he never reached a point where everyone liked what he was saying or doing, so why would any of us mere mortals get there either? Sending you lots of love & healing for the wounded ego, it is a soft and tender part of us, isn’t it? (p.s. I preach this well but I am still so tender re public opinion that I have told myself I Absolutely Cannot Check Amazon once people start writing reviews of my book b/c I think I will throw up once negative ones are there. So please remind me of my own words.) 😉

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:09 pm

      Oh Laura–I cannot imagine the horror and pain of that encounter. You are a steadfast supportive friend. And I cannot wait for your book to come out so we can throw a huge bash and celebrate it! And boo on any future hatin’ on it!!

  10. Katrina on October 21, 2014 at 7:12 am

    Your blog is great and so are YOU. I’ve met you, and like I said, I look up to you so much.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:08 pm

      Katrina, I don’t deserve it and I’m humbled by it. Thank you for being here and loving me!

  11. Rachel on October 21, 2014 at 7:13 am

    Ugh. People can be so annoying sometimes, can’t they? I guess that’s not very charitable of me. (But still!) You keep doing what you’re doing!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:07 pm

      Thanks for being here and making me laugh, Rachel!! 🙂

  12. Kate Browning on October 21, 2014 at 7:47 am

    Nell, you are lovely. People who spend their time on the internet criticizing strangers sound like very unhappy people to me. Don’t change a thing. Xoxo

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:07 pm

      And you my friend, you are so generous and kind to go to all the work of coming on here and commenting. I know you’re my southern sister, so I’m not really surprised. THANK YOU SWEET KATE!!!

  13. Maureen on October 21, 2014 at 7:50 am

    When you walked into my history class at age 16, Nell, you were already a fully formed woman of immense kindness, compassion, and integrity. You radiated joy, and infused every personal encounter with love and inspiration. You were and remain unforgettable. Don’t let the bad guys get you down.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:06 pm

      My dearest Ms. C. How can I tell you how much your response means to me? I can’t. So I’ll just say, thank you. And hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs.

  14. Angela Miceli on October 21, 2014 at 8:00 am

    The inter-webs can be a scary place. Haters are gonna hate. I love your blog and I love give-aways! I just hope I finally win one 🙂 But seriously, I look at your blog often when I have a mom question. I live abroad where doctors push formula (with all kinds of junk) immediately, women usually wean between 3-6 months because it is not socially acceptable to nurse in public. And there is very, very little support for nursing, let alone natural parenting. So, when I need support, ideas, or have a question, I always look here! Thank you for your work! It is appreciated from this little corner of the world!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:05 pm

      Oh, Angela, you’re so kind. It makes my heart so happy to hear I can be supportive to you. Keep on going, sweet mama, with your natural gut!!!!! Hugs & appreciation for your kindness!

  15. Caitlyn on October 21, 2014 at 8:05 am

    I’m a horrible commenter but I’ve been around here and there for a while. The first few times I stopped by were for advice on doulas and natural birth. Don’t let the haters get you down. You don’t have to please every single person on the internet, or even every person in the little niche you have as a blogger. Constant giveaways and sponsored posts can be a bore… but yours are always in line with what you write. You aren’t promoting products for the sake of promoting them. You promoting them because you love them and use them… nothing wrong with that.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:03 pm

      No such thing as a horrible commenter, Caitlyn. It’s like being late to a moms’ group (impossible–we are all always late). I really really appreciate you being here and hearing your feedback. Thank you for it and thank you for the encouragement! I hope I was able to be of some help with my experience with doulas & natural birth.

  16. Susanna on October 21, 2014 at 8:05 am

    Nell, you have a lovely blog, and it reflects the lovely person you are. You just keep on writing what you want to write about, and if you have a neat product to giveaway, then do it! Your blog should reflect who you are! And not everyone is the same, so if they don’t like every single one of your interests, that is not your fault. Keep up the awesome blogging!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:02 pm

      Susanna, so honest and open as always. Thank you for being here!!

  17. Tasslyn Magnusson on October 21, 2014 at 8:09 am

    I just will echo what all said before me. You are a genuine caring spiritual loving person. Write your truth. Your heart soars. What an example you provide of someone who is constantly considering, shaping, feeling, and living her values. That’s important!!!!! That’s what will keep us from going crazy as a culture. Keep being you. Genuine and real.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:02 pm

      Oh Tasslyn, my faithful friend who’s always here to help pick me up and give me her wisdom. THANK YOU. HUGS and hugs.

  18. Erica Saint on October 21, 2014 at 8:10 am

    I am sorry that you had to read negative comments. I enjoy your blog, but I don’t comment often because I am in a different season of life (my youngest is 6 and my oldest is 18). I think you should keep writing and giving away what makes you happy! 🙂

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:01 pm

      Dear Erica! Thanks for commenting and letting me know you’re enjoying. And thank you for the feedback about the giveaways. A number of people have asked that I curate products beyond baby–and I’m super excited to try to do so!!

  19. Kathleen on October 21, 2014 at 8:13 am

    I think this is your space and you should write whatever you want. If folks don’t like it, they don’t have to read it! I really appreciate your authenticity and honesty and I think “smug” would be about the last word I’d use to describe your writing. Yes, you have opinions and beliefs and you state them here but that’s what you do when you write and express yourself honestly. I am not a Catholic but I still find it interesting to hear about this part of your life. One of the things I appreciate the most about blogs is the ability to be exposed to people who believe different things than I do and the way this stretches me. Thanks for all your hard work and what you’ve added to my life.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 10:00 pm

      Kathleen, I am super glad you’re here. I too love to be stretched and hear things beyond an echo chamber 😉 Though I love pontificating in my echo chamber, right? It really moves me to think I could possibly add something to your life, or others. That’s what the internet is all about, in my humble opinion. 🙂

  20. Bonnie on October 21, 2014 at 8:29 am

    Oh Nell! I’m so sorry your feelings were hurt! I feel like the goods you offer are a natural extension of you, your beliefs, and the focus of your blog. I would not change a thing about Whole Family Parenting – or YOU. And I think you are a dear.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:59 pm

      Bonnie, who could be a truer ally? thank you so much for being here, and for all your support and thoughtfulness!!

  21. Krystal on October 21, 2014 at 8:36 am

    I’ll just say take the good to become better and forget the bad. People will have their opinions but it doesn’t mean you aren’t anything but awesome. Just be yourself. 🙂

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:58 pm

      Awww Krystal, thanks for being here. And you have such common sense, sound advice!!

  22. Kathy H on October 21, 2014 at 8:41 am

    I love your blog because your Catholic mommyness is a little more subtle than some. You write about a variety of parenting topics and nutrition and other crunchy things I aspire too. There have been a lot of giveaways lately, but like others said if they don’t interest me, I just come back the next day. And if I do like them, then I cross my fingers all day!! Real and genuine, when I met you in person at Edel and when I read your blog, that’s what I think!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:58 pm

      Oh Kathy, I just really am so glad you’re here. Thank you for being so kind and making me feel so loved 🙂

  23. Christy on October 21, 2014 at 9:13 am

    I am so sorry Nell! I think your blog is really wonderful and a beautiful expression of you, whom after meeting in real life think is absolutely amazing. Don’t change anything because there are a few people who don’t know what they’re talking about! Blogs should be the natural extension of a person, not something that is created to be generically acceptable. I’ve always appreciated your parenting wisdom, natural approaches, and the giveaways have always been top notch. So sorry dear!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:57 pm

      Christy. Sending you love, straight up to Canada. I’m humbled by your kindness. THANK YOU. Smooches!!

  24. Amanda on October 21, 2014 at 9:17 am

    Nell, I’m so sorry you have to see those type of comments. Unfortunately I’ve noticed a lot of the Internet is like that. While there is a wonderful community and even respectful disagreement, many people think it’s totally appropriate to say things online that they probably couldn’t/wouldn’t/shouldn’t say in real life.
    This is your space. You know who you are. You know what you believe. You keep doing what you want to do. <3

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:56 pm

      Amanda, thank you SO much for being here. Your kind words and honest response is really helpful for me. Thank you, thank you.

  25. Jenny on October 21, 2014 at 9:23 am

    Ah Nell, that just means you’ve hit it big time (but I knew that when Design Mom featured you!)

    My personal favorite thing about trolls (other than the irony of the freedom they feel to express their displeasure while doing exactly NOTHING about it. I.e. no blog of their own, no space to project their brand of crazy) is that it’s generally directly correlated with how well your doing with your stats and views. Troll on, losers. Thanks for the “feedback.”


    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:55 pm

      HAHAHA Jenny you made me crack up so very much. You’re a straight-shooter and I love your approach to everything. X to the O.

  26. Jenny on October 21, 2014 at 9:23 am


  27. Tess on October 21, 2014 at 9:34 am

    I wouldn’t worry about it—every big blogger makes it onto there eventually. This just means you’ve really “made it” as a blogger! 😉

    Plus in reading that site, I find that the criticisms often come from a place of good intent—the commenters are usually people who like your blog, or at least have read enough of it that they’ve gotten to know you pretty well, and are sharing things they wish you would do differently. If any commenter says something overly mean, the others will usually jump in to correct that. I think the site can actually be a great sounding board to help bloggers figure out how to improve their approach. Hopefully you can look at it that way and not feel hurt!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:55 pm

      Thanks, Tess!

  28. Kelli on October 21, 2014 at 9:42 am

    oh Nell, I know it’s hard not to listen to those comments, but you and your blog are both great and I love it just the way it is. Hugs girl!!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:54 pm

      Thank you, super sweet and incredibly talented friend!!!

  29. Hannah on October 21, 2014 at 9:50 am

    Don’t listen to the haters! The internet can be a scary place sometimes but know that your readers who love you are the ones that keep coming back, and those others can choose not to read you if they so choose! 🙂 Praying for you!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:54 pm

      Hannah, so glad you are here! And thank you so much for your very needed prayers. HUGS!

  30. Leah on October 21, 2014 at 10:00 am

    I consider none of those criticisms to be valid. You are the most open, helpful, and understanding person I know. You befriend everyone around you with an open heart, and in my opinion, your wonderful blog reflects that. And the lovely giveaways? I think they are a mark of your success and you should continue them proudly. I have learned about a number of great products for my kiddos because of them. Keep on keeping on. You deserve no criticism. You are doing an amazing job helping moms and babes locally and beyond. (Plus, if it wasn’t for your blog, I would have never known of or bought the sling that has now saved my sanity for the past four days.)

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:51 pm

      My lawyer sister. Love it and LOVE that you’re loving the sling. Can’t wait to meet your sweet little L and watch our big kids play. Thank you for your keen insights. 🙂

  31. Emily Barnes on October 21, 2014 at 10:45 am

    I’m a new follower, but I’m loving your blog! Sometimes, each blog that I follow has a post, or a giveaway, that doesn’t interest me. So I skip it and move on. I wish more people could just be satisfied by doing that.

    I appreciate that you work hard to find good brands to share with mamas like me. I say keep doing what you’re doing. I value your posts of all kinds 🙂

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:50 pm

      Awww Emily, you’re so kind. Thank you for being here and for your feedback!

  32. Peg Conway on October 21, 2014 at 11:24 am

    Hi Nell — I sympathize with your feelings and am sorry that it happened. The standard line in our family (now somewhat of a joke among us, used at every turn) is “They’re just jealous!” I enjoy your blog and have always been intrigued by your Catholicism, which is much more traditional than mine, and yet I have always felt accepted and welcome by you in our online and live interactions. I appreciate that you present it gently and sincerely as part of your life, but your whole blog isn’t defined by it. I’m not a fan of giveaways but that’s in part due to my advanced age relative to your main readers, I am sure. Keep calm and blog on!!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:49 pm

      You are so honest and true, Peg, and have been a wonderful learning person for me in my life, a ying to my yang in many ways. Keeping calm; blogging on, because my spiritual birth guide says so! 🙂

  33. Sydney at Twine Interiors on October 21, 2014 at 12:22 pm

    Do not worry, Nell, my love. You are going great!

    Just turn on Taylor Swift’s “Shake It Off” and dance around your house haha!
    xoxo Sydney at Twine Interiors

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:48 pm

      My sweet ombre friend. THANK YOU and danced around to it a few times. Hahaha! XO

  34. Wendy Cukierski on October 21, 2014 at 12:45 pm

    Stopping by to give you a ((hug)) and encouragement ♡ I’ve been in a similar situation. Press on, sister in Christ!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:47 pm

      Wendy, such a sweet and needed stop by. THANK YOU! Pressing on and sending you prayers 🙂

  35. Jane on October 21, 2014 at 1:11 pm

    Just keep being you, Nell! You can’t please everyone. Those people should read another blog if they don’t like yours, or give constructive feedback. Love your blog regardless if there are giveaways or no giveaways, whether you talk a lot about your faith, or not at all. I read it because I find humor in your posts and can relate to almost all your topics. You are intelligent and give great parenting tips. And I need all the help I can get when it comes to gardening. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us! Love you!!!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:45 pm

      Awww, my dear friend. You are so kind. And you have so much to offer all of us with your incredible nutritional knowledge. Love you and appreciate your support so very very much!

  36. Marya on October 21, 2014 at 1:19 pm

    Just as everyone before me has said, you are great just the way you are!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:44 pm

      Marya, thank you so much for being here and caring! Sending you electronic hugs. 🙂

  37. Jamie on October 21, 2014 at 1:39 pm

    While I think it is so big of you to consider the potential for helpful feedback from your readers, you keep on keeping on Nell! You will never please everyone but if you start doing things because the readers say so, you will lose you, and the genuine intentions that prompted you to begin blogging in the first place. Those loyal readers are so because you have been you, transparently sharing your journey. The others likely only followed for the giveaways anyway!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:42 pm

      You, sweet mama, are so kind and true. And I so appreciate your reminders here! And can’t wait to see your new baby & bring you a meal!

      • Jamie on October 24, 2014 at 3:08 am

        Cylus is amazing and we can’t wait for you to meet him! You are so sweet to offer to bring us a meal! Maybe A play date for the boys while we catch up over tea? We hope to be going home tomorrow and we have meals set for about the first 6-7 days. Let’s connect via other media in the next week! Thanks Nell! Much love!

  38. Theresa Breslin on October 21, 2014 at 1:56 pm

    Ahh, I know the forum (introduced to me by law school friends who would read it during class, of course…. that’s 3L). Anyway, it attracts a certain snark from people that you definitely would not come across face-to-face. I’m just here to tell you to brush it off! I haven’t been reading your blog very long, but like the others, I appreciate your unique perspective. You can’t please everyone, but that’s life!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:41 pm

      How did I miss this forum? I guess I’ve been too busy in my own laaalaa land. 3L–yes, I was always doing Table of contents for law review during class instead of listening. See, I could have been putzing instead! Thank you for being here, Theresa, and thanks for the encouragement!

  39. molly on October 21, 2014 at 2:53 pm

    Ok so I might be biased, because you’re my best friend. But please, don’t pay any heed. Haters will be haters. The more successful you are, the more flack you will receive. You are a superstar. Love your blog, love your goods, don’t change!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:40 pm

      You’re not biased at all, bestie. SMOOCHES!!

  40. Kara on October 21, 2014 at 2:55 pm

    Dear Nell,
    People are mean. I’ve had a rough go recently, too. I’m just crushed. And I’m crushed that people said unkind things about you. I think for all the wonderful things about the internet, people get a forum to say things they normally wouldn’t. And that can be dangerous. I must remember to be thoughtful with my words even in this quasi anonymous forum of the internet.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:39 pm

      Oh dear Kara, I’m so sorry people have been cruel and you’re feeling low. I’m lifting you up in prayers, my friend, and we will shake this off together! JMJ^100,000,000!

  41. Patty on October 21, 2014 at 3:25 pm

    Wow, Nell. I find that odd that people can be so critical even hurtful when this space is YOUR blog…don’t let the debbie downers make you feel you’re doing something wrong. I personally like when other bloggers offer those other things because many times it puts in touch with products I want to try or check out myself. Keep doing what you’re doing, mama! 🙂

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:37 pm

      Patty, thank you so much for being here. It means the world to me, really. And I appreciate your thoughts!! OK–no debbie downing!

  42. Amy @ Motherhood and Miscellany on October 21, 2014 at 3:54 pm

    I’m so sorry you experienced this, Nell. I have had a few ugly things written about me and my writing/blog too. Once, very, very early in my conversion, I wrote a post about why I was beginning to love the Catholic Church. A non-Catholic woman wrote her own post about me and basically bashed me for not knowing the Bible (which I absolutely didn’t at the time and wasn’t pretending to) and for not having, in her opinion, good enough reasons for liking Catholicism. I was shocked and kind of surprised by how much it hurt!

    I personally love reading what you write. You are warm and genuine, and your writing reflects that. I’m still hoping to buy your book someday! Sending you virtual hugs and shaking my virtual finger at the meanies 🙂

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:36 pm

      Sweet Amy. You’re a real gem and always brighten my day. What a rotten experience you had–and it is surprising how it can sting! Hugs right back 🙂

  43. Melody on October 21, 2014 at 8:27 pm

    Oi. Sometimes the Internet drives me crazy!
    I love your blog: I’m a relatively new reader and not even a parent but I enjoy reading and have no qualms with your talents. So listen to me and not the crazies! 🙂

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:35 pm

      Melody–I LOVE MY NON PARENT READERS! Thank you so much. Listening 😉

  44. Karen Perez on October 21, 2014 at 9:02 pm

    Nonsense. Giveaways are great and you are far from smug.

    Love your blog. Keep on keepin’ on.

    Karen, of Juan and Karen, of AMSOL

    P.S. Give our love to AA too.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 21, 2014 at 10:03 pm

      KAREN!!! It’s so so lovely to hear from you!! Love to you & Juan!!!

  45. Claudette on October 21, 2014 at 10:41 pm

    You are the third blog that I subscribe to that is being harassed. What is going on! If they don’t like your blog or posts why don’t they just unsubscribe? People are getting really mean and weird. I love all your posts, please don’t stop 🙂

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:34 pm

      Golly how weird is that? Thank you, Claudette, for being here. And thank you for your encouragement.

  46. Nellie on October 22, 2014 at 1:01 am

    I’m sorry this happened to you. People are weird & get cyber courage & forget that their words can hurt real people. I think your blog is great & honest. You can’t please everyone… Make your blog how you want it.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:34 pm

      First off. Great name. 😉 Thank you for being here. And secondly. Thank you for your real words. It is a weird thing–cyber speak–like it’s without consequences. A good reminder to me, too.

  47. Laura on October 22, 2014 at 8:07 am

    I know I’m a bit late to the party on this, but wanted to offer encouragement! Don’t listen to the haters, if there’s one thing I’ve learned from blogging it’s that you can’t please everyone, and you have to stay true to yourself – otherwise, YOU won’t like yourself for not being genuine, and that’s worse than any online troll being rude. I personally LOVE the blog – your honesty, realiness and just conversational tone. KEEP IT UP. And for the record, I do appreciate the giveaways – I agree, if you can give back, why not? I’ll be praying for you, I know how tough it can be out there. 😉

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:32 pm

      Awww Laura, you’re super super sweet and real. And I appreciate it so so much. And your feedback on the giveaways 🙂 Hope you win soon!! Prayers are always necessary and appreciated.

  48. Kelly Meagher on October 22, 2014 at 10:19 am

    What an unpleasant thing to find! I think they forget a blog is a glimpse into someone’s life and not their life entirely. You are such a lovely person, – if only they knew. Keep on keeping on because what you share is beautiful!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:32 pm

      You are so kind. I will keep on keeping on because of supportive friends like you! It was unpleasant–like I wanted to just explain myself to that one person in detail and hope they would get it. But we can’t control how others perceive us, unfortunately 🙁

  49. Olivia @ To the Heights on October 22, 2014 at 2:07 pm

    You are my hero. Seriously. That’s not a trite statement. I look up to you more than you realize. And your readers who TRULY value you and your writing LOVE what they get to see each day on WPF. Keep on keeping on because you’re blessing many lives, my friend.

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:31 pm

      My dear Liv, thank you so much. God hold you close, sweet friend, for your kindness & love!

  50. Designs By Katy on October 23, 2014 at 12:50 pm

    🙁 You are lovely with a beautiful heart. Anyone who’s been around you for 5 seconds could tell that. I try to remind myself that hurtful comments say much more about the person giving them out than the one they are directed to. Keep your head up, Nell!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 23, 2014 at 9:31 pm

      Thanks, Katy. Gosh you are so so kind to come over and say it!

  51. Lauren on October 24, 2014 at 10:21 pm

    So many other people have written, but you need to know that you’re doing just fine! Taylor Swift says that the haters gonna hate. True, T Swift. 😉 Girl, I know. If you ever pop over to my blog, I write (infrequently) about some very personal stuff. Once, a very mean woman wrote a very terrible comment on my blog, calling me Satan. I stupidly clicked on her name/profile and it took me to her blog where she had dedicated a SERIES OF POSTS about me and how I’m a terrible parent/human being. That was nice. I know how it feels- like your chest is going to cave in. The good outweighs the bad, but sometimes the bad is louder, you know? You’re doing great. I like hearing about the things you do differently than I do- even your faith. I’m a hardcore Lutheran, lol, and I’ve now lost count of the wonderful number of Catholic mommy bloggers I follow. Be true to yourself and those who respect that will stay. (p.s. giveaways are totally fine. especially if I win.)

  52. Laurel on October 24, 2014 at 11:48 pm

    Just getting caught up-to-date on things… and reading this makes me so sad (and MAD!). Wow. Just wow. As so many have already said — your blog is awesome; your giveaways are awesome; you are awesome. Don’t let one person, who has no idea what they are talking about, get you down. So many of us love what you do!

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 25, 2014 at 8:32 pm

      X to the O to the million. Thank you. I’m humbled. XOXOXOXO

  53. Jessica on October 27, 2014 at 1:06 pm

    I’m late reading this, but just had to say I love your blog. People think bloggers should do everything for free, and act weird when someone gets some sponsors or is able to kindly do giveaways for readers. I say good for you!
    If you write for everyone, you write for no one.
    Who honestly is wasting their time reading your blog if they don’t like it? That is their problem, not yours. 🙂

    • Natural Mama Nell on October 27, 2014 at 7:18 pm

      You are so incredible kind. Thank you for being here and for your love 🙂

  54. Jen on December 11, 2014 at 2:29 pm

    I just wanted to let you know that I love your blog! I love the wide variety of topics you discuss, the fact that your faith is obviously a foundational part of your life, yet you’re not preachy about it and how open and the honest approach you take. There will always be those who have nothing but negative things to say, but for everyone one of them, you’ve positively effected many, many more! Just wanted to offer encouragement and love 🙂

    • Natural Mama Nell on December 11, 2014 at 10:59 pm

      Your voice means so much. Thank you, Jen!!

  55. Claudette on December 11, 2014 at 3:38 pm

    Please, please, please keep doing what your doing! Love your blog and yours is not the first one in many months to be targeted. What is going on? People are getting so hateful, filthy minded and self righteous lately. They hide behind comments that are truly of the devil. I have been so sadden by some of my blogs that I love and what they have been going thru. Food Babe is one of them and now you. Really these people are the minority, why they read a blog they obviously don’t like is beyond me. Be careful and continue to be yourself.

    • Natural Mama Nell on December 11, 2014 at 10:59 pm

      You’re a total love. Thanks, Claudette!