On being in the thin space: pregnancy
Yes! I’m expecting number four around Christmas and YES! we hoped for this baby and yes, I will probably throw up for 8 months straight as has been the norm with the other three.
I feel like I’m in a thin place, a place of between ness. My joy is along side the suffering I’ve witnessed and experienced in our friends and family this past year: struggling to conceive, or to find a partner they want to conceive with, or to hold their live baby in their arms, or to hold their live toddler in their arms. I’ve wept with the people I love, crying out why why why take this love from our midst? Why deprive us of this potential for joy? This delight? And now, why do I get to easily conceive another baby, a fourth?
Part of me wanted to wait even longer to stop using NFP to abstain from sex during my fertile times. Part of me wanted to hold out from going through my usual physically challenging pregnancies, and after my last recovery that took a full year to function normally again, that too. Part of me didn’t want to get pregnant to have to maybe lose my baby. To have to say goodbye, as my friends had.
The other part of me listened to my dear friend Laura’s pain and insane hurt and decided that I, too, could find hope in a new life for our family. If Laura can find hope in her daughters’ deaths, how am I not brave enough to be open for another baby? If you haven’t followed their journey on losing their twin girls to twin-to-twin-transfusion, please go and stay at her blog, Mothering Spirit.
If when Maggie and Abby died, their deaths mean we all lay down our fertility from fear, we miss out on the beauty of their short lives. We despair.
That thin space between the other world and ours is bitter & sad instead of one of closeness to God. A thin place where magic happens and little lives are started. Little souls infused.
The kids are thrilled! We are thrilled. This tiny tiny person inside me, almost six weeks, is already a member of our family, whether he or she lives to 90 years old, or 9 weeks. As my son said to me the other day, “I hope the baby doesn’t die, but if they do, that would be so amazing to have a saint sibling in Heaven.”
I’m so glad to be able to share in this space about our journey of growing our family. I may be not writing as much if I’m as pukey as usual. But will probably still be overgramming on instagram and conversing up a storm on Facebook!
Congratulations, Sweet Nell! You will be in my prayers, as always but especially now.
thank you, sister! I need them!
So so so exciting!!! Congratulations to you all 🙂 🙂 🙂
we get to journey together this pregnancy! love that!!
This is gorgeous. I love your heart. God is so good. I am deeply grateful that our daughters played a part in your new baby’s story. I will forever hold that in my heart, too.
We love Maggie and Abby!!!!!
Congratulations, Nell! I will be offering up my upcoming labor for you and baby. This was the hardest pregnancy of my life… and worth it. Every moment worth it. Thank you for sharing your journey of love with the world. Thanks be to God!
I’ll be offering up my throwing up of your labor. You’re heroic and a beautiful example to the rest of us!!
thank you so so much!
thank you, kind friend!
thank you so so much!
So so happy for you!! Congrats!!
thank you, sweet friend!
SO exciting!! We’ll get to “meet” the wee one this September too 😉
Happy for you and Anthony!
I can’t wait!!! Thank you so much!
This is just beautiful. And so are you!!! I am just so happy for you and your family, and so happy that I got the chance to give you a “Congratulations!!!!” hug in person <3
My friend!! What a special visit we had!!
Wonderful news! Congrats!
thank you so so much, kind sister!!
Congratulations! I was wondering if this was the case when you mentioned your shop going on vacation.
You’re so clever! I’m anticipating quite a stretch of throwing up and don’t want to do it on anyone’s leggings 😉
I have tears in my eyes. I love your heart! So happy for you! xx
thank you, sweet sister!!!
Congratulations! We too are expecting in December. I love your description of a thin veil. We are overjoyed to have a new little one joining our family and to readily conceive at an older age, but carry fear and worry due to a miscarriage in February. Your son is a wise young man, his words brought comfort to this mama’s heart!
So so sorry for your loss and thrilled for your new life!
Congratulations sweet Nell!! What a beautiful gift from God! I’m so happy for you and your family!!!
Congratulations Nell!!! Ahhhhh I’m so excited for you!
You’re so sweet!!!! We are so blessed and excited!!
Oh, Nell! I am so very happy for you and your growing family! Prayers for your sweet babe and for lots of graces for you all.
thank you thank you!! I’m really hoping to grow in graceful suffering this time!
Congratulations!! Wishing all the best to you and yours.
(And love the “overgramming” – what a great term! Copyright it quick!) 😉
Yay! Congratulations! A Christmas baby! How fun! I am eleven weeks pregnant, due date is November 9th. 🙂
Hurrah!! Blessings, sister!
Congratulations Nell! What a lucky baby to have you as a mama!
Thank you so so much, sweet friend!!
Congratulations, and so many prayers for you from a fellow HG mama!!! Does your doctor/midwife offer you any kind of treatment?
My poor midwives. I’ve tried everything natural and unnatural. It’s all a blur of vomit or constipation! Tell me your tricks! Thanks for the congrats, sweet friend!
Congratulations!!!! I’m so happy for you and your growing family, and I think your son is SO COOL for grasping the gift and beauty of life and pregnancy-that even if we don’t know how long our little unborn kiddos will be with us, they are a joy! I will be praying for all of you! 🙂
So appreciative of your prayers!! He’s a super special boy 🙂
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Congratulations, Nell! I am a recovering lawyer as well AND I am expecting as well, due date around Christmas 🙂 This is my first pregnancy after my clotting disorder diagnosis (I have similar condition as Jen Fulwiler) and will be offering up for you and your baby during my shots. Love,
Congratulations, I suffered hg for my past two pregnancies so so tough, nothing natural or other helped.
Although, occasionally a sip of horrid coke would keep it at bay. I couldn’t believe it, but it did. I hope this fourth time it passes on by. It’s as if your allergic to.the hormones, that first meal post birth really is the best!
Thanks so much for the tip! I cannot wait for that post-baby meal hahaha
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